Personal Development

Hugh Jackman and Esther Perel (#755)

17 August 2024
Bourahima


This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #444 “Hugh Jackman on Best Decisions, Daily Routines, The 85% Rule, Favorite Exercises, Mind Training, and Much More” and #241 “The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (with Esther Perel).”

Please enjoy!

Bios of guests may be found at tim.blog/combo.

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#755: Hugh Jackman and Esther Perel

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SHOW NOTES

  • [05:46] Notes about this supercombo format.
  • [06:49] Enter Hugh Jackman.
  • [07:22] What books has Hugh gifted most?
  • [10:35] Hugh’s meditation practices.
  • [14:07] Summoning and maintaining the emotional and physical energy necessary for performing.
  • [19:59] What lessons did Hugh’s father teach him about being an example to others?
  • [25:32] The contract Hugh made with himself at the end of drama school.
  • [29:13] Best decisions Hugh made in the first years of being an aspiring/working actor.
  • [34:23] How has Hugh learned to trust his intuition?
  • [37:07] The design of the day and the efficacy of manifestation.
  • [39:38] The most efficient exercises Hugh knows.
  • [40:53] The importance of incorporating relaxation into physical activity (the 85% rule).
  • [44:17] Enter Esther Perel.
  • [44:41] Esther’s background.
  • [46:11] Growing up among Holocaust survivors in Antwerp.
  • [53:45] Her parents’ survival: chance vs. choice.
  • [1:02:27] Trust or vulnerability: which comes first?
  • [1:04:24] Impermanence as motivation for living fully.
  • [1:06:24] Esther on being counterphobic.
  • [1:09:35] Studying in Jerusalem.
  • [1:14:02] Seeking and approaching mentors.
  • [1:22:39] Eroticism as an antidote to death.
  • [1:26:04] Options for couples with sexual listlessness.
  • [1:33:04] Too much honesty in relationships? American vs. European views.
  • [1:39:07] Complete sharing vs. caring in relationships.
  • [1:40:16] Guiding patients through infidelity disclosure.
  • [1:45:29] Overcoming fear of abandonment in non-exclusive relationships.
  • [1:52:23] Quarterly relationship report cards.
  • [1:53:54] “Don’t ask, don’t tell” in polyamorous relationships.
  • [1:55:46] Innovation and flexibility over rigid ideology in relationships.
  • [1:58:43] Relationships as power dynamics.
  • [2:02:20] The research process for Esther’s book on adultery.
  • [2:08:36] Arguments for marriage today.
  • [2:13:47] Divorce rates in second marriages.
  • [2:15:13] Marriage’s effect on relationship behavior.
  • [2:17:54] Human questions explored through infidelity in Esther’s book.
  • [2:21:48] Books Esther frequently gifts and rereads.
  • [2:22:42] Esther’s billboard.
  • [2:23:15] Parting thoughts.

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Hugh Jackman:

Twitter | Instagram | Facebook

Connect with Esther Perel:

Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

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