A guy who is genuinely sold out to God. 💯
In my life, very early on in my Christianity (within a few days), I was tested as to whether or not I’d choose my own will or God’s. I chose His and consistently, throughout all my years of being a believer, I’ve chosen His will, His path, at any cost to me personally.
I chose God over myself when my husband asked me to give up God or he’d leave me.
I chose God over myself when I knew it was God’s will for me to become homeless and I submitted to that will, not knowing the answers, if I’d make it through, or what would happen to me.
Every day, I’ve consistently chosen God, and sometimes, through GREAT costs.
But I have never regretted choosing God in those moments. Not once. 💯
From the beginning, God was going to test me and really show myself and others that I mean business.
I’m a Christian and that means something.
It means we don’t take God for granted, we don’t pick and choose which Scriptures we want to obey and not obey, and we do whatever He asks us to do, even when we don’t understand why or are afraid of falling.
I’m sold out to Jesus Christ (Luke 14:26 in context). There’s nothing that can break that bond (John 10:28-30). And I’m not willing to give up God for ANYone or anything.
Over the years, God has been faithful to me.
He’s been good to me and kind.
- He’s protected me like a Father.
- He’s loved me like Jesus loves the church (His bride).
- He’s provided for me when there was no hope of me providing for myself.
- He’s been my refuge and hiding place, a safe shelter when the storms of the world come at me, when people attack, misalign me, or be ruthlessly mean.
- He’s comforted me in times of trouble.
- He’s taken away my pain when I couldn’t handle it anymore.
- He’s loved me and given me many treasures, wisdom, and blessings that are His in heaven.
- He’s helped me when I’m sick, been close to me when I’m lonely, and given me strength when I had none.
Surely the Lord is great and worthy to be praised. He’s done so much for me and no human or thing could ever take His place. Nothing can ever compare to the love and grace that HE gives to me. And I am emphatically, in love with my Savior. 😍
I run for Him daily. I strive to be my best minute-by-minute. I want so desperately to offer my life to Him as a drink offering. To pour out all my desires, hopes, and dreams and to replace them with HIS.
Nothing means more to me in this world than God and I want someone who feels the same way about God as I do. It’s non-negotiable. I run, I fight, I strive, all for God and I need someone who is willing to run WITH me. Us both running our little guts out for God. 😊
I’ve had plenty of opportunities to be with men who are not sold out to God, but I never do. I don’t choose them because I know in my heart that I will not be happy unless I’m running and I want someone who is running too.
This life isn’t all there is. We cannot focus on the world or the things in it, we must keep our gaze on heaven, on God, on holy things, on His eternal being.
It’s hard to find someone with that qualification. Guys can fake it. They can pretend and some do. But one of my spiritual gifts is the gift of discernment and I can read people like you wouldn’t believe. I’m pretty good at spotting the fakes (it keeps me safe 😊). I can tell.
I need to be with someone like me, who loves the Lord as much as I do, who’s willing to give up everything for Him. Many men put the women they care about as idols in their life and I do not want to be a man’s idol. My place is underneath God, just like my husband’s place will be underneath God as well.
When a man puts a woman as his idol, he loses himself. He becomes submissive to her every whim, she takes advantage of him, manipulates him, and he becomes less of a man because no longer is God leading, no longer is he leading with love, SHE is leading. And that’s what you saw in the Garden of Eden.
Eve came to Adam to give him the apple and he ate it. She was his idol. He cared more about pleasing his wife than God.
How can we know that?
If he would have loved God more than his wife, he would have gone to God and said, “Look, this is what’s happening. The woman is giving me this apple. I know it’s wrong, you’ve told me it’s wrong, do you still want me not to eat it? What do YOU want me to do?”
He put his wife (and himself) first above God and God’s desires and sinned and was punished for it greatly.
I don’t want that. I don’t want a man to put me first. I want a man who loves God more than me. Because if he does, then our relationship will be righteous and holy, a union pleasing and fitting to the Lord and an example to the world of what love, God’s love, really looks like, right before their very eyes.
That’s what I want most in a man. In a husband. A man who puts God first. A man who’s sold out to Christ no matter what. And I would encourage everyone else, to want the same thing in a mate! 💎